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Monday 24 November 2014

Dear LIB readers: When you have a nagging and jealous husband

From a female LIB reader
For the past 2years .My husband nags about every little thing this days.He picks on anything I say. To the extent of me not being too free to discuss issues or normal conversations as husband and wife anymore. It all started like a joke. sometimes the thoughts that always comes to my mind is men and their stressful moment,i will just allow him to be. But right now the whole thing is making me go gaga.To put pictures of my friends like celebrating their birthdays or Wedding Anniversary with then via what's up or BB is a case. My own picture, OMG!
We may experience house of commotion that day.If I makes his breakfast with toast bread he would say the bread is too cold. I should bring it straight from the toaster and then to his mouth.If u make it hot he would be like do u want to kill me before my time.If we go outing with other families and a conversation is raised I dare not contribute.if I do when we get home wahala.He will be like are u the only woman there must u show them that ur educated or exposed.I hardly talks back at him when ever he's nagging or should I say shouting?If i do,the next call I would get that day or next is my parent's calls from different angles even from my younger sister sometimes,telling them how I have been maltreating him,even cries at the process while complaining.Can u imagine that! Sometimes I will be like hun! some men sha....LOL...

Am shading tears at this moment .U know why?I love my kids so much that I can't even imagine my life without them by doing something so drastic that we all might leave to regret.when I try to seat him down and talk some senses into him,he keeps telling me he's facing a lot of pressure from his business.But what I doesn't seems to understand is when I complained to 2 people I believed he's a bit close to, because he's not the type that hangs out with men rather with women or should I say small small girls. He doesn't keep friends.He's always on his own but never at home.They were surprised hearing such from me.They Will start telling me how he talks so much about me how I reorganized his business since I started working with him. He stopped me from my previous business.Because he wants me too close to him, how I takes very good care of the children despite his absence etc.My dad and my husband's elder brother keeps telling me that my husband they know can't do without me.One thing I should known is that he's too jealous to a fault and sometimes it might be complex.That he's scared of facing me whenever we have issues that he always thinks he might lose me on the process that's why he keeps coming to them whenever I try to talk back at him he believes they are the people I respect so much.And yet at my presence he never believes I can do anything,infact he makes me feel that am useless most times.But in all he does not hit me,he can only shout and nags.

I just decided to share this basic ones with other married women and men out there.I seriously wants to know if am the only one experiencing this.Because  am really losing my mind.Thanks.

151 comments:

Anonymous said...

this linda self

Unknown said...

You just hv to leave with it. 24C632E3

Unknown said...

Fa fa fa fowl

Alex said...

Wow! A bit too much tho

Tectono Business Review said...

The wife has no other option but to bear the her nagging husband. The question is was he not nagging when they were dating?
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Anonymous said...

All you need do is pray. Prayers will change him. Linda post my comment.

Neekee said...

Pele o

Anonymous said...

You dont have to look out for other homes to plan yours. If you need peace Prayer is the key for all issues. But in relationships or marriage you have to understand what your spouse likes and do it more .He should also do the same. But life will be terrible when no one tries to please the other.

Miss Chief said...

as in serious nawa
such a bratty husband
i'm not married, so i'm not in the best position to advise you



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nice voice sha, although i couldnt help LOLing

Anonymous said...

No be small wa.

Anonymous said...

The only thing I c here is the very horrible grammar from an educated woman. Hmm! Ok o! I wish d best along with wisdom. And sisi, pls work on it grammar.

Angels Mummy said...

E clear say you marry pyscho oooooooooo. God deliver you and your children but I think you saw the signs and ignored it because of nigerian mentality of getting married whether you are happy or not does not matter. Na you are complaining wetin you cone want us to do na?. My ex bf was like that so I understand.

Anonymous said...

Hmmmmmmmm strange. Ogopage@yahoo.com

David Ogbonna said...

It isn't only u dt is experiencing dis........ There are women seeing much more dan dis u are facing........ My advice is dt u shud do all within ur power 2 make tins work for d both of u........ It's said dt men are d head of d house- sure, bt women are d neck dt turn d Head. Also, women own d keys 2 a successful home, bt only a few kw how to use dis keys........ Put it in prayers & den talk 2 him abt it........ Nt with harsh words........ I rest my case!

Anonymous said...

Marital life no easy oh!!! #immagold# ogishot84@yahoo.com

Swagg isimemen said...

Bear it he love u so much, he doesn't want 2 lose u nd always obey him u will enjoy him latter

Angels Mummy said...

Tectono you be correct person for that comment. she saw it ignored it now she they cry for who na?

Unknown said...

Sorry dear,deal wit it ok

Anonymous said...

Linda....you for try correct her English small nah

Anonymous said...

May God intervene to your situation,since he doesn't keep male friend's,it's hard to tell where he learn been nagging from

Anonymous said...

Hello dear,

First off, I can tell 1- your husband is really possesive and 2- you totally depend on him for all your needs. 3- you have nothing going on for you except your husband and children.

Firstly, you need to sit him down and talk to him as a wife.

Secondly, you need to have other things going on for you. I mean like finding other activities that gives you happiness.
I started learning how to play keyboard in the most trying time of my marriage. I played it for 2 hours everyday and today I am very good at it. Even my spouse is very impressed.

Thirdly, seek self actualization. If you have a b.sc, start seeking for n m.sc.
Go further in life. Make yourself too busy physically and intellectually to be depressed by things like this.

Fourthly,, hit the gym. I have this hunch that you might be over weight. Work out 2-3 times a week. If there is no gym around, please take a walk every evening and make sure ur husband comes with you.
Suggest things that could spice up your marriage such as going to the beach or just having a picnick with the kids. Little things like that really matter.

Lastly, always pray together. Share ur problems together. Never bottle up.

April 30, 2015 will make it my 8th year of marriage. Its not easy but I wouldnt trade my marriage for anything in the world.

Olusoji said...

Take up this issue to a counsellor or an ederly person in the family where both must be willing to pour out your minds. He must be prepared to face you and discuss what is eating him up.

Dabocity said...

God is in control

Nonny said...

Dis one Na long story I go read am wen i'm fully awake

Unknown said...

Jt leave d house 4 him.rosepowell0@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

endure it for the sake of your chilfdren.in
your next life be careful who you marry

ukbliss said...

Ur bad grammar is so annoying and u said ur educated, plz which Skl is dt.

Anonymous said...

My dear,that's the worst that can happen to you,s.imoh@yahoo.com

Unknown said...

Buhahaha! Ok @ u. Talks back @ him or you makes breakfast for him.....lotsa lotsa other. Gbagaun here.....gurl take it from me....your grammar pisses him off! Pls stop "contribution" in any conv outside u hear? Lmao! Ka nsoro gi nyuo ogbu!

Mi Lady said...

Prayer changes by R.Kelly for you my dear.

Unknown said...

Yup, D only solution is to bear wt him n pray earnestly bcos wit GOD all things are possible. Funmicare55@gmail.com

ThatBluntGuy said...

Linda, you no dey try.
It wouldn't have cost you a think to correct her English.
And Madam, the reason your husband nags is because of your poor grammar.
Go and get the whole of the brighter grammar series and mastering English and study them, then your husband can make you talk in public.
Thank me later.

Anonymous said...

I never saw that you prayed for once. My dear only God can change your husband. I know what am saying fight this battle on your knees. "The heart of a king(man) is in the hand of the

Unknown said...

The best thing to do in dis case is to endure him and pray bcos God holds d heart of all human, HE alone can change him 4 d best

Anonymous said...

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LINDA’S BLOG with SDK BLOGBOO knowing fully well that your new found blog boo always look for a little opportunity to jab your monthly giveaway benefactor. Though people say it is not common but Alloy you really need to engage your common sense.

Unknown said...

My dear keeop praying for ur hubby one day he will change..rosepowell0@gmail.com

chincobee said...

This is serious o.nagging?a man?good for you he doesn't hit you.maybe he needs to see a psychologist cos I don't understand this his nagging traits.For the sake of your kids,try to make your hubby understand and above all,talk to God.

Anonymous said...

Na wao! i cant condole with that


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chris bakwe said...

Sorry and find another option to be happy

Anonymous said...

Women see this b4 marriage and after marriage they complain.
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chris bakwe said...

Sorry,find something to make your self happy

MUVA said...

What can I say? "Some men sha" lol

AaronKore said...

Sefiaono@gmail.com

phummie said...

Hmmmm.Patience nd Pray so tins cn get betr..

Unknown said...

Am telling u!!! I was thinking it was typo until d thing became persistent... Short of words o but can't deal or stand a nagging hubby.. Maybe u shld threaten to leave him cos of d shit he does

AaronKore said...

Sefiaono@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

Wrongest place to share this story.ul get mostly insults here.it annoys me wen I hear pple asking if a woman ddnt see d signs wen dey were dating.some men can pretend to get wat dey want and bsides no one is perfect.il advice u to join adorable mum group on facebook.u will learn a lot

GCN( LADY G ) said...

Yea... gladchinyere@gmail.com

AaronKore said...

Sefiaono@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

na wa o

Unknown said...

LinLin, are these are exact words? If yes, I think i know why he doesn't want you to talk in public. Madam, just talk to God about it. What works for mrs. A may not for mrs. B. All you need is that connection with your maker.

Jenny Cherish said...

Hmmm ur English though,pls work on ur English biko,start from there cos thats why he does nt like u speaking while in public

Unknown said...

What a pity
Sit him down & tell him how you feel before the situation get out of hand

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Unknown said...

When a man nags over little things towards his partner,it's a simple fact that women should just accept...the man caught the woman with maybe a bad this he does not expect of her...what I want u to know is that,even if something is bothering him on any other issues apart from his wife,i bet it with u,his wife is the best person he will run to share it with as a loving man she claimed...but when a man seems not sharing personal talks with his wife again,that means the woman have done something silly that he has lost trust and confidence in her...my advise for u is to just check urself,even if u think he did not see u,he might just be looking at u simply bcos of the children u mentioned.

Unknown said...

When a man nags over little things towards his partner,it's a simple fact that women should just accept...the man caught the woman with maybe a bad this he does not expect of her...what I want u to know is that,even if something is bothering him on any other issues apart from his wife,i bet it with u,his wife is the best person he will run to share it with as a loving man she claimed...but when a man seems not sharing personal talks with his wife again,that means the woman have done something silly that he has lost trust and confidence in her...my advise for u is to just check urself,even if u think he did not see u,he might just be looking at u simply bcos of the children u mentioned.

snowflix said...

My dear marriage is a parcel, you can never know what's in it till you open it. So my dear you have opened yours and that's it. If that is the way he truly is aside business pressure and all Mehn you can't change him you can only adjust and one day he will adjust to yours too #onelovefromSnow#

Guineacar said...

Terrible something.

Anonymous said...

The wife should discuss the situation to the husband and settle their problem

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Prince S said...

two flesh becoming one... never easy. pray, and be patient with him

Anonymous said...

I don't really know why some men behave like that

Anonymous said...

Anon 4:36, u re crazy nd mad! Idiot!

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Chop Chop said...

It's well.

fola unique said...

sorry dear

Unknown said...

Take heart

JOY said...

Pray. He needs counseling too. It is well

ary said...

Linda the least you could have done was polish the english of this 'educated' woman! On the matter at hand, well I don't know how people survive with nagging men/women. As a matter of fact I hate nagging so much, that I can't bear to see it in a person no matter the sex.

Anonymous said...

I believe your english alone is enough to make him shout!

Anonymous said...

Hahahahaha. Dont worry marry ur boyfriend/best friend 2day n 2yts time u ll come on dis platform. U r not alone my sister. I ve come to accept it. Its becos dy r intimidated by ur level of reasoning n maturity. Solution: make feel like d boss n he is always right even if he is saying d dumbest tinz even, laugh in ur hrt. Allow him his friends ll correct him. Cos immediately dy get married dey think feom their ego n not head. It is well. No married woman ll say she has not experience some of these complains.

Anonymous said...

Only if i had to share my own
then you will worship and appreciate urs
Its not easy
am in tears nw

Anonymous said...

So much for your plenty education with this kain English here.

Anonymous said...

My dear it's everywhere. Marriage ain't easy. Don't envy anyone married. They all pretend to be happy. Just make yourself happy and the kids, don't let his attitude get to u.

Anonymous said...

Sweety uv got no problem, tho ds is not nice. All u need do is talk to him wen he's in his happiest moods. If it dosnt wrk, ignore him a lil nd see if he'd com ask u wts up, den u pour out ur mind. Most importantly, pray

Anonymous said...

stop doing things dat make him nag or shout at u...u know dem all, so it's better u stop OK?

Anonymous said...

I guess he is insecure telojoorabah@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Too bad for you.
Jenniferrichard4life@gmail.com

Blossoms by nsture said...

Jst shutup if u cnt be helpful...dummy...ah ah..lin lin plz stop acceptin dis knd of pple's comment..2 d married woman,pray 2 ur father in heaven he knws all u need b4 u ask..ds are challenges of lyf, of marriage...goodluck

Unknown said...

I think he might have inferiority complex around you. Maybe you intimidate him in a way and he is scared of losing you. he probably doesn't know a better way of going about this. The first step would be getting him to admit it which is the hardest. Then from there you guys can work on he's attitude and you can reassure him that he doesn't need to go to extremes. SHow him that he's attitude is driving you away instead of keeping you

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Francis said...

I tweeted this yesterday but the other way round, I don't pray my enemy finds a nagging woman. In other words if u have a nagging wife/husband all u need is patience n prayer n u'd be surprised the mysterious ways God works. BE PATIENT

Anonymous said...

U and ur man needs psychological counselling. He has a lot of insecurites plus an inferiority complex. U need to see a psychologist. Lest i 4get, ur English needs doctoring. Good luck

Anonymous said...

Chai! dis grammar na wa ooo.

Unknown said...

Ignore him always..he'll get tired

Anonymous said...

mumu wetin u sabi

The Traveller said...

Do this, over a period of 1 month, secretly record his outburst using your phone (audio only will do). Then walk up to his people and play it for them and let them know you are afraid for yourself and children because of their son's seeming instability. You need someone to hear you out and believe you in his family.

Unknown said...

My dear pray for him and is their is anything you do you know he likes try to do it often then whenever he is shouting don't talk back at him just let him be and since he can't even listen to what you say you can write him a letter tell him how you feel but above all pray that things gets better. Don't worry it is only for a moment

Anonymous said...

Meanwhile, you really need to work on your grammar as well.

Anonymous said...

Do not give him that chance at all, file a divorce.

Anonymous said...

hmmmmm

Anonymous said...

How can a husband hang out with girls instead of men and a wife s very comfortable wt it?me wonders if he would feel same if u hang out wt men. As for his nagging behavior, you knew about it when you guys started dating n maybe you felt it was love. You just have to live wt it sorry o.

Anonymous said...

Dear Linda... your for read this before posting na... that grammar wan blow person head mean... that's the only thing I see #okbye

Anonymous said...

men n women are great pretenders during courtship. Na after marriage true colour dey show o. So Pls don't blame her. When u see someone u really want to pin down, u do everything possible to get him or her. When u eventually do, no need for further pretence

Unknown said...

Did this lady say in the story that her husband considers her educated and exposed???
The grammatical errors in this story is enough to cause commotion. Since U're not seeking any advice, u just wanted to share ur story. Thanks for sharing... SMH

Unknown said...

God help u dear!!!!!Newsondan@gmail.com

Anonymous said...

My brother/sister...Linda u now behave like the westerners.they never correct a blonder,they cast it instead.And to the issue on ground,the husband is only a local low esteem individual,he runs u down to only feel good about himsel,people like them don't talk bad of u outside-the goodnews,but can frustrate u inside-the bad news. And I wonder how u dint find this b4 marriage,it does not hide,Stop arrangee marriage people.One more thing-instead of keeping it to heart or sharing with us,u should have sat him down in tell him to stop the childish behavior,do that ok,he would bend.(But I hope it's not case of him not trusting your judgments,that would demand you work on improving your self)have a great married life

jbankzE said...

Ddnt u c d signs wen u wea dating em?nw ur in nd complainin,madam u must stay dat marriage n deal wif ur cross

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Anonymous said...

Reading the comments above i now see why Nigerian men behave the way they do.
What fuckery...!!

She's in an emotionally abusive marriage and you people are telling her to make it work..!! From her story i can tell you for free that her husband is dangerous.

Am i the only one that saw the part where he hangs out with small girls but complains when his own wife updates her bbm picture? Or the fact that he doesn't let her speak in public because he's probably afraid that she will outshine him?

The comments really got me upset because i have been a victim of emotional abuse. Very soon, my dear poster, he may transition to serious violence. Take it from me, I've been down this road before. It takes the grace of God to escape in one piece. I'm pretty sure that this same husband has tried to cut off all her friends and relatives. If he hasn't done that already I'd be shocked.

Tell tale signs of a psycho and people are telling her to pray and make her marriage work!! It takes two praying people to make a marriage work o. She wasn't married to him to be his pastor. ( it's the other way round. Read your bible well).

As for those saying she saw the signs while dating, i disagree. As a victim myself, i can tell you for free that some men are just evil and have perfected the craft of pretence. Because when i look back in retrospect, there was no sign to show that he would be emotionally abusive.

It's easier to spot a physically abusive partner than it is to spot an emotionally abusive one.

Thank God i was able to escape intact. It took me years to rebuild my confidence and trust, but God has been faithful.

Let's not be here advising her to pray and what not until she becomes another Titi Arowolo (if i didn't run for my life I'm sure I'd have been dead by now).

Emotional abuse is real and 8 out of 10 times it transitions to serious physical abuse. This man is capable of killing her.

Poster, your husband needs counselling. If he won't go, please find a way to secretly save up money for yourself and your kids. Run as far as you can for as long as possible without contacting your family members that he is always going to report to. Find a confidant, your mum is probably the best option after God.

Sorry for my long epistle, it's just that this story hit a bit too close to home for me.

I wish you all the best.

Jennifer O said...

Most times u truly know ur partner after marriage....lots of character gets hidden during dating...anything dat happens yle dating gets worse during marriage...its possible u saw slight signs buh ignored it or believed he wud change....person nor dey change after marriage oooo....just pray abt it sha..God will intervene

Unknown said...

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Anonymous said...

Leave all dem holier than thou talk. My ex husband was like that. I tried to only have 1 child for him. D attitude was madddd! I gave him time to change, no way. This nagging. It gave me a better insight on d bible saying about a man marrying a nagging wife. Nagging is horrible. It will shorten ur life. If he's not changing, leave him so u will have peace! Those that haven't been in this situation won't understand. There was a day I just couldn't stop crying, I actually felt death was better. I was suicidal. Anything that isn't giving u peace, leave it. Now, the peace I have, I can only thank God I had d courage to leave all that behind not minding what people say.

bernice sweet. said...

I'm really pissed at some of the comments here. It is obvious the commenters are very young and inexperienced. Yes,this is social media, freedom of speech/comment is allowed but you don't have to show your ignorance to the world.
On the matter at hand, madam, I feel your pain. People handle things differently, it's observes your husband is in a lot of stress thus frustration and maybe depression has set in. From your post it seems inferiority complex and fear of losing you makes him react even more negatively by talking you down or ' not making you feel good about yourself' so that you don't leave him. He has a problem and he desperately knows it. I'm sorry you are going through this and I also feel sorry for your husband because I think he needs help(counselling). That is my opinion, I not a marriage counsellor. I strongly suggest you see a good one( marriage counsellor). You can tune in to 92.3 inspiration fm on saturdays 1-2pm and 7-8pm, Sunday 7-8pm. Call in on the show and talk to Aunt Landa, she is a certified counsellor and is very good at her job. Pls call her, don't wait till your problem gets way over your heads or after you have done something really silly. The earlier you do something positive about it the better the chances of saving your marriage. Also be careful who you go to for advice so that their words don't put you in trouble. I think I have said too much already. All the best.

Anonymous said...

Na everybody dey date before marriage nawao.

Anonymous said...

See English sha..smh..Y wont he nag, when you are trying to kill him with grammatical error.

jaybeyblu said...

This ur English fa, little wonder he doesn't let u speak in public

Unknown said...

Patience, patience, patience nd prayers all time

Iyaana said...

She should be patient and pray more.

Anonymous said...

@ david ogbonna u r right my dear d best person u can go to is God, some times we table our problem to people dat will never bring solution to us instead dey keep talking off point. My dear take it to God in prayers, u might hv prayed pls pray more u will hv testimony ijn. Linda pls post my comment tnx

Anonymous said...

Why are u talkin like a learner? Havnt you seem dat will be blue durin the relationship period and wen u marry dem they will turn red? Most husband dat hit their wives was neva doin so durin d relationship period, so i don't blame her, the husband might hav acted like an angel wen they were datin. It happens wella. So Nne open ur eyes oo, don't judge a man entirely with the way he is treatin u durin the relationship, real colour go show wen u start poppin out the kids.

Livvsreamblog said...

There is one behavior he didnt like about you,madam you need to stop that behavior your husband is not just nagging.....we men dont just nag

fibonnachi said...

Eyaa

Anonymous said...

i see myself in ur story becos it is xactly wat i am experiencing. he is ur cross that u must carry and with prayers notin is impossible. the situation is not an easy one at all. i really do feel u.

Walata said...

Nice comment

yawanow said...

Its not much of a problem.
There are ways to tame him to an extent,by limiting extensive exchange of words and pray about it.

Unknown said...

oga oooo

Anonymous said...

My dear, you need to see this movie "MR & MRS

Money makes you fuck lots of women without stress said...

Educated Madam?



I pray oh




See your dead grammatical composition.




If truly your husband thinks you are educated, then he must be a stark illiterate.



If truly your husband is a stark illiterate, then it is only normal that his behaviour will be irrational.



If truly his behaviour is irrational, then what kind of advice do you expect us to give you for him, that will work?




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adeyinka said...

She only wanted your advice and not to abuse her English. Ma'am, pls pray and fast for like 3days. Beg God to deliver him cos dts hw devil operates. he likes to put sorrow in a happy home. Aftermath, wake him in d middle of d night n pour ur feelings to him. Tell him u ain't happy wt his behaviour n make him realize u love him sooo much. Tell him all d sweet sweet tins. I Blv he will change.

Anonymous said...

You talking about grammar! Is that the advise she ask you to give? Nigerians and their horrible mentality. You read her story and you understood it, Didn't you? Ewu!

Anonymous said...

Sorry pearl_emerald@ymail.com

Anonymous said...

pele.. marriage sha

Anonymous said...

it is well with you

Unknown said...

No mind linda..how am i sure dis story is even real? See grammatical bullshit.. u want pple to say It's her diction dats making d man behave like a cow yeah? U gotta chill girlfriend, bye!

Unknown said...

No mind linda..how am i sure dis story is even real? See grammatical bullshit.. u want pple to say It's her diction dats making d man behave like a cow yeah? U gotta chill girlfriend, bye!

Anonymous said...

Lord be with you

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

sorry dear, u just bear with him...

Anonymous said...

na wa o

Dave Mide said...

Lets not dwell on the english ...the message was conveyed. Pray for him. Obviously he loves u

Unknown said...

When you guys were in courtship you should have noticed this behavior but you failed to do so, there is no reaction with out an action check your self very well an see if you are really the cause of his actions, tell yourself the truth, an pray for the fruit of the spirit of jehovah upon your home because if you continue like this it will not only affect your marriage it may affect your children's communication skills in life

France said...

all these grammatical errors you are using to kill us this morning, daris God oh!!

Vacancies in Nigeria said...

I think the best thing to do is call on God to help you touch his mind. Prayer is the answer to every problem

Export Cars Nigeria said...

God help you to understand him

Anonymous said...

I can relate with u...Infact I tell hubby that we are supposed to exchange genders- he the female and I the male. I will say my situation is much better now tho' he still needs to improve on the nagging. My advise to u firstly is to pray for him. Also assure him that u're in or marriage to stay and prove to him that he can trust u. He most likely is insecure so u need to boost his confidence in you. One th8ng is for sure...he loves you. He just doesn't know how to show it without over-reacting. I can assure you that in the long run, it will pay off and u'll both enjoy each other. Already enjoying mine; not where I want us to be yet tho' but we're getting there gradually. Pls don't listen to negative advice/comments. Choose to concentrate on the positive.
U wish u all the best.

Unknown said...

Ur english is d major problem in ur marriage. Go to grammar sch nd he'd change trust me it works like magic

Anonymous said...

y sit dere and die dere?

do like d 4 lepers in d bible

chibuzorndikanwu@yahoo.com said...

sad tale. pray about it

Anonymous said...

The grammar is enough to make her husband nag her. Choi

Anonymous said...

My dear you are not the only one.I had to move out with the children cos i couldnt take the psycho behaviour anymore.

Kawo said...

What the husband is doing is called manipulation. You should visit a counselor.

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Anonymous said...

U no get wahala Abeg, pple face worse issues. Find a way to deal with it, for better or for worse

APPLE said...

Your hubby is psycho. He is also a witch. lol.

Anonymous said...

I have dated a man who was more or less semi illiterate he could not read properly or really write at all, even a simple letter, after about six months of verbally harassing me unnecessarily, I told my self the truth that it could not work, the man is not educated period and it would not just work.

I think you need to advise your husband to seek serious psychological evaluation and psychotherapy.

He is emotionally of the kilter, he needs help.

It is not about prayers for most of you ignorant ones, in this part of the world we think everything should be solved by prayers not at all, this is a clear cut case of an emotionally abusive man.

His wife is his wife she is not a professionally trained psychotherapist to help a man who is emotionally five years old,insecure and probably suffering a high dose of inferiority complex and abandonment issues. People are here asking her to put up with his s..t with prayers,it is one thing for her to adjust and live with his crap and it is another thing for him to go get help.

For your information there are christian psychotherapists, pastors only really reel out bible quotations and are not trained psychologists.

My own take

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Anonymous said...

U for put ur pic here so we can see the block head behind this

Zexyzorlia said...

Is he going through difficult times?it could be the reason he nags even at that its not an excuse to continually vent your anger on your wife.eventually he ll pass it on to the children and start finding fault with them too. prayers might not help,you have to find a way and stand up to him too even if it means screaming at him to let him know how you feel and if it doesnt work leave him... men dont know what they have until they loose it especially when they are taking that person for granted or some oda foolish lady is deceiving them

Oyin said...

This is the truth so dear poster...read this well......

You are probably street smart or book smart than hes..

-he showers you love so much outside that close friends n relatives think you are the one with the issue.
its all insecurity and it can be dangerous....jealousy,envy leads to despise....despise can be bad

You should find a way to tell him how you feel without getting screamed at....you know him well and his time of the month


Anonymous said...

Hmmm I'm in dis wit u oh! But mine is on d basis of not using pictures or display messages that it means I'm telling friends of my private life.

Anonymous said...

@ukbliss, u are such a bastard, ignorant article of no commercial value, impudent, insolent, idiot. Ur taking note of typos of a heavy hearted woman who is in tears. U must be mad, can u speak or write better? Foolish fowl. Oloshi.

Anonymous said...

Wat sort of advice is this? Divorce? Just like that? Hell no! Ppl think marriage is some child's play which u run in n out of anyhow. Pls talk to him, pray for him and pray with him. Try to show him more affection. All will be well in Jesus' name

Anonymous said...

Bernice sweet, u got me there, d commenters in linda's blog are very young indeed, d only thing they see in her write up is her blunders, which is unfair, most educated pple can speak and they can't write, while some can write and they can speak English fluently, we should try as much as possible to help her with advice rather than cuss her out with her English or writeup , rest my case

Anonymous said...

Madam, I think he is cheating on u. I am very sure u fact. That's why u are no longer able to please him and everything u do is never good enough. But I think he loves u sha cos u are d mother of his children so ur space in his heart is different from those girls he's sleeping with. Just go on ur knees and pray about it sha. Pele. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Make God dey helep us all.

Unknown said...

Anon 7.46am, even a half brained fool will see that all those supposed mistakes are typographical error. Smart ASS!

And Anon 9.42am, you self righteous bitch! Yes, her grammar is all I see. Now, run into a brick wall.

Anonymous said...

Dear LIB reader

First and foremost your language and vocabulary is appalling - I really struggled to read that, however it seems as though your Oga may be going through some kind of mid life crisis. I would wait it out and be patient and hopefully it passes because your family come 1st. Do you both have a spiritual father / mother whom you both look up to?? Yeah ?? Go down that route, it works a treat most times!!

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